“I Feel No Shame” Marilyn Van Derbur, Miss America, Survivor

Marilyn Van Derbur was born in 1937 and became Miss Colorado 1957 and in 1958 Miss America.

Marilyn is an incest survivor, who blanked out what happened to her until her late 30’s. A while later she suffered intermittent paralysis for some months and so she went into therapy.

In 1990 she publically revealed that she was an incest survivor by her father from age 5 to 18. Within weeks, over 3,000 men and women came forward in the greater Denver area for help and support.

These are her very powerful interviews…

Marilyn Van Derbur: A Survivor Story [1a] 

or watch on Invidious  – Marilyn Van Derbur: A Survivor Story [1]

 

Great Colorado Women – Marilyn Van Derbur Atler [6]

or watch on Invidious Great Colorado Women – Marilyn Van Derbur Atler [6a]

She founded an organization called SUN (Survivor United Network) which I believe to be this one [4]

Marilyn also wrote a book, Miss America By Day, [3], in which, using her experiences and research, she shares knowledge and insights on incest.

This is her website – Miss America by Day [5]

Yet another brave lady… she gave talks called “I feel no shame”

I only post on this blog and links on Twitter at present, if you have found this post useful, please post on other social media – facebook, instagram, pinterest, gab – whichever ones you are on. This is most helpful to spread the information. The people who do this are essential. Thankyou.

These sites may be useful for people wishing to deprogram…

  • Deprogramwiki  [Q]
  • How to Integrate Alters – Fiona Barnett [P]
  • SurvivorsJustice Triggers post [E]

Other resources are immediately below and later after this posts links

  • The Sanctuary for the Abused [A] has advice on how to prevent triggers.
  • National Association for People Abused in Childhood [B] has a freephone helpline and has links to local support groups.
  • One in Four [C]
  • Havoca [D].
  • Useful post on Triggers [E]  from SurvivorsJustice [F] blog.
  • Jim Hoppers pages on Mindfulness [G]  and Meditation [H] may be useful.
  • Hwaairfan blog An Indigenous Australian Approach to Healing Trauma  [J]
  • Survivors UK for victims and survivors of male rape or the sexual abuse of men [K]
  • Voicing CSA group [L] helps arrange survivors meetings in your area
  • A Prescription for me blog Various emotional support links [M]
  • Fresh Start Foundation Scottish not for profit group, helping child sexual abuse victims & survivors  [N]
  • How to Integrate Alters – Fiona Barnett [P]
  • Deprogramwiki  [Q]
  • Jessie Czebotar Illuminate the Darkness [R]
  • PsychCentral The 5 Stages of Loss and Grief [S]
  • Researching Reform [T]
  • Maggie Oliver Foundation [U]
  • EFT Universe Emotional Freedom Technique Tapping [V]

For more details and resources please see further down…

Links

[1] Marilyn Van Derbur: A Survivor Story https://www.invidio.us/watch?v=ALEfE3rNCqI

[1a] Marilyn Van Derbur: A Survivor Story https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ALEfE3rNCqI

[2] Wikipedia Marilyn Van Derbur https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marilyn_Van_Derbur

[3] Amazon Marilyn Van Derbur Miss America By Day https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B004RW52QE/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0

[4] Survivors United Network https://www.survivorsunitednetwork.org/

[5] Miss America by Day https://www.missamericabyday.com/

[6] Great Colorado Women – Marilyn Van Derbur Atler https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NUwuxXA1MiU&feature=youtu.be

[6a] Great Colorado Women – Marilyn Van Derbur Atler https://www.invidio.us.com/watch?v=NUwuxXA1MiU&feature=youtu.be

[7] 2020 Jun 11 cathyfoxblog Marilyn Van Derbur Survivor https://cathyfox.wordpress.com/2020/06/11/marilyn-van-derbur-survivor/

Twitter Threads

[101] 2020 May 18 cathyfoxblog Twitter Threads – Symbolism, Mind Control, Hollywood and more

Below are links to Twitter threads on the following subjects. Numbers with [a] following eg [3a] are the link to twitter threadreaderapp saved threads

[A] Sanctuary for the Abused http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.co.uk/2006/07/for-survivors-coping-with-triggers-if.html

This is all written in good faith but if there is anything that needs to be corrected or you wish to write to me please email cathyfox@zoho.com quoting the article title.

The truth will out, the truth will shout, the truth will set us free

“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing” – Edmund Burke

“He who does not bellow the truth when he knows the truth makes himself the accomplice of liars and forgers.” Charles Peguy

To sin by silence when we should protest makes cowards out of men  – Ella  Wheeler Wilcox

Every time we act in the face of fear, we dilute it’s power and increase our confidence – via Gary Havener

Only the small secrets need to be protected, the large ones are kept secret by public incredulity – Marshall McLuhan

Let justice be done though the heavens fall – Fiat justitia ruat cælum

Put the enemy at unease by making information they do not want known to be known…

I only post on Twitter at present, if you have found this post useful, please post on other social media – facebook, instagram, pinterest, gab – whichever ones you are on. This is most helpful to spread the information. The people who do this are essential. Thankyou.

My notes if any, intended to be added to resources

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